Being a Girl is not so easy

 Since beginning of life I have been seeing lots of issues of a girl’s life. Being a girl I can relate these problems to my life also. Yes, I am not facing all those but lil'. So, If I can change at least one person's mentality with this blog so I will think I've used my free time in a good way.

Here I start with the birth of a girl. We all are familiar with the most worst condition of abortion of a girl child. But I don’t point out this issue. Because my point is to make you aware the issues and problems of a born girl child. Everyone is happy when a girl took birth but on the other side her parents starts planning for her education, dowry, specially the society- how the society will see her after her succeeding age. You know what's the biggest problems of a girl's life. The only problem of a girl is why she is a girl? 😒 Because from the childhood, she learnt to compromise with her life. She is taught to stay calm, speak softly, maintain #social distancing with boys😆. She can't be safe with any other male person except her family, sorry family means father or brother not with all families. She don't have to deal with her own life problems, she has to deal with her family problems, family respect, family pride, societies pride, and yes of-course the main issue is @what will other say? O hello @WTF** it is. 🤬why should I care what they will say if I am not bothering about their life. And if any girls try to live their life with their own rules n norms, first she got the same dialogue from their families and then after our beloved society is always #present to make her life @झंड। If she wants to enjoy her life, let them enjoy.

The first battle of her life starts when she enters in teenage.👧 She has been already struggling with the  battle of mental change, physical change, study pressure, aim deciding problems, but yet she has

to struggle with the mentality of our society because every cheap mentality person 🤯starts guessing- hey @bro, she is going to be #bomb💣 in future dude. And no no again its not a big issue of growing like a bomb 💣. They have also issues of your dark complexions, short height, dull skin blaa blaa n blaa. But no one wanna understand how's her life going, what's running in her mind, what she wants? Everyone comes to her just to put their thoughts on her head like she is @coolie to carry everyone’s thought, opinion and dreams. In so many educated families still she got comment what will she do after getting education. She has to take care of her family. So teach her household chores. No one literally no one come to listen her, everyone come to make her listen. And from that stage she starts compromisations with her dream, her life, her dressing sense, basically with all her life stuffs. That time girl starts her first compromisation by being #deaf. Because if she answers means she is not #SANSKARI.

                                   After crossing that stage, she will enter in the backbone stage of life because the life of a girl stucks around this stage.👩🏻‍🦰 Marriage stage, hahahahah. And the lead role credit of this stage goes to @HUSBAND and @SASURAL. #Husband who is still in searching process, inspite of this he played the best role in our life to make it @झंड  again. The whole life of a girl is directly and indirectly depends on it. Because from the teenage if she ask for something like outing with friends, night stay with friends, asking for movie etc. She has been answered by yes after marriage will go with your husband, after marriage will do it with your husband. Literally sometime I guess that I took birth in the wrong home. Mine was my husband's house. Next time I will directly land in my in-laws home. But situations doesn't ends here. If any girl started to insist for movie, for trip with friend, all of sudden emotional dialogues starts like cats n dogs rain. Unfortunately I am still searching that from which book 📚 our family members learnt these emotional dialogues and where it is written that these emotional dialogues are made for girls only. Guys if you will get this book 📚, no not book I mean author 🧐 please handover it me then I will decide what should I do with author hahahahahaha.🤪. You know the biggest mistake of girl's life. If she don't know how to cook, it's like you did blunder if you don't know cooking. Heeinnn 😕don't know cooking? how will you feed your husband, your in-laws. Girls should know cooking. You can't feed them maggie everyday. Heeeinn 😕Husband will do cooking for you? What will in-laws says, your parents didn't teach you cooking? blaa blaa blaaa. If a girl's parents gave her higher education, make her independent, taught her #sanskar to not to answers elder one, that all goes vanish if you don't know cooking. O my beloved societies, if he will cook for me, he won't die. You know what the f***k dare she compete? When she has been displayed like product. Because that time we have to show ourself #sanskari, we don't have to answer all questions, we have to be silent and most important we have to say, I know cooking if I don't know. This time she also compromises with her life, dreams. Dream can be of anything like to higher study, to become successful in her professional life.

                                             Okay then come to the marriage ceremony. Quite interesting 😟and full of tragedy.😢 Let's start with love marriage, if a girl ask for love marriage, whole family get  छोटा सा heart attack. Because girls are not allowed for love marriage. You guys forgot, I told you, girls are carrying the pride of their family and societies so how can she marry the guy whom she is selecting for herself, whom she is knowing from last some years, with whom she set her compatibilities. Girls don't have experience to judge a person for her life but yeah everyone has the right to judge her. Like judging by her dress length, tone of voice, at what time she is going out with her friends obviously I am talking about girls gang dear. Don't tell the name of boys because if she goes with male buddy means she will be murdered hahahah. Don’t get shocked that murdered by which weapons? This weapons is easily available in everyone’s house that is the weapon of tongue 👅 and  yeah I know you guys are thinking, that I forgot but no never I can't forget that main instrument to pass the judgment for girl’s character that is how much she is using her cellphone, how long she is talking on the phone calls. Here I have a quotation running in my mind. I think you feel the same. मैं आज तक खुद को नहीं समझ पाई और लोग पता नहीं मुझे क्या क्या समझ लिए  l
Sorry again I distracted from the topic. Yeah come to the marriage topic. Family has the right to select a person for girls. If they have selected means he is totally @RAJKUMAR 🤴 for her daughter😆😆😆😆 and has the superpower 🦸‍♂️ as he can protect her everywhere. Doesn’t matter if he is @sukkha_pahlwan. If a girl don’t like him inspite this she has to say yes. After handling so many compromisations, new twist come. And the twist is whether you are talking with your fiancee or not? If don’t, means you are still stuck in your past life and if you talk means how much do you talk. Leave some topic for the post wedding time. Again a girl is confused 🤷‍♀️ should I talk or not? I remembered one more issue if a girl drinks or smoke it means like she is killing others not herself by drinking. How can you smoke/drink? 🍺You are girl, you can't. O thank you 🙏 everyone to let me know that I am a girl, heretofore I didn't know that.👏 And for your kind information I have seen there's written @Drinking or smoking is injurious to health not to the girl's health.

Okay lets finish it. I know I am not a blogger or writer. But I used my free time just to make realise everyone- how, where and when a girl compromises with her life. And not for herself, for you guys. You can be her family, relatives, neighbours, societies. So, stop to make her compromises and start to understand her. Go and talk to your girl(either she is daughter, sister, mother, fiancee, friend, girl friend) exactly what she wants, what she needs, what she deserves. And try to talk with her in every stage of life because all of sudden if you directly entered in her backbone stage(after teenage) and ask about her life, I guaranteed you, she will never share. May be she can but it will take more time to gain her faith and make her comfortable to share her problems. Give her the reason of genuine smile not fake smile. Every girl has different problems so go and try to talk to her because she can't share with anyone. But as a mother, father, brother, sister, friend, boy friend go and try to understand her. Nothing she wants except a faithful person with whom she can share her life problems. I know we can't change society but atleast try to make change from our home.

Thanks.💖💖